The Parenting Files

Does this look familiar? Well if it does it probably means you are a shitty parent or you have friends or family that are shitty parents! Now this picture could be a joke and taken way out of context but the alarming rate of terrible fucking parents is NOT a joke. When Lizzy and I were going over what we would discuss this week on our podcast she thought that we should tackle the subject of parenting since she had just seen and heard some disturbing things about some of the parents she knows. I was a little worried that we would not be able to really talk about that for an hour but after we got going it seemed like we could have went on for days.

The way the world is turning it is not looking good for the future. Im not a Jesse Jackson ass, save the world ass nigga but DAMN! This shit is really fucked up! When I see a teenage mother I cringe thinking "...is that little boy she is holding all crazy gonna end up robbing one of my kids one day?" It is so easy to blame the dads not being there but if you could travel back in time you would notice that the dads were never there. They were always off hunting, protecting the land and protecting his "village". It was the mothers, daughters, aunts and grandmothers that were left to raise the families. So when I hear women complain now about not having a man around I damn near lose it. That is a cop out to me. I know many women who have raised their kids, mostly by themselves and did a helluva job. And no Im not letting men off the hook completely. You niggas need to at least spend some time with your children if you can not take care of them financially. How can you call yourself a man and not have ANYTHING to do with your children? They need more than money from you, they need your love, your support and most of all your guidance. You are a big part of the reason that women dont do well in relationships. If they would have had their dad in their life they would have learned how to treat a man properly and what type of things to do and not to do. All Im saying is this is an ongoing issue they may never be solved completely. If we, the "village" step up and do our best to encourage parents, especially young women to do better and seek help if needed then they will know we all care. This may save your baby girl Monica from hoppin' on that pole or lil' T from killing one of us someday.

Im just sayin!

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As always thank you for eyes and ears!

Enjoy!

Its Resolution Time...Or is it?

'Tis the season...So Xmas has just passed and New Years is on the horizon. This is the time of year people start to say all the shit they are planning to do or not do the coming year. Well that or talk about all this shit they were suppose to do or not do the last News Years and failed. I'm calling BULLSHIT on the majority of you and included in that majority is ME!

I can remember back many New Years ago making resolutions about shit I haven't even thought of since I spoke them aloud to anyone who would listen. Is it that people like me lack focus? Is it that some of the things we say we are going to do or not do so far fetched? Are we living fantasies? Who knows, but the funny thing is you can recognize these people very easily. They are the ones who have promised the same changes every year since you have known them. I used to say all types of stuff I wasn't going to do or that I needed to start doing but as soon as I was confronted with that "thing", whatever it was I just passed it off and acted as if it was no big deal anymore and that actually worked for me until now. In the last few years I have not even worried about resolutions or anything that resembled one.

It comes a time when you just have look at your life for exactly what it is and accept that some things may take much longer to happen or that they may not happen at all. For those that may take this as me being pessimistic I am not. I am neither optimistic nor pessimistic, the glass isn't half full or half empty to me its just a half of glass. I look at things for exactly what they are plain and simple. So now when I get hit with the question, "What are your New Year's Resolutions?" I am going to answer with, "Who said I had anything to Resolve? What are you trying to say that I have some shit wrong with me?" In my opinion we have trained our minds to believe when Jan. 1st hits that we need to be doing something different than we were on Dec. 31st. What if the year before you had a great year? Do you still need to do anything different? The sad thing is most people would answer YES! There is always room for improvement. You can lose more weight, make more money, go more places, meet more people, gain more success, quit something, start something new...yadda yadda yadda and what I came to realize is that what your essentially telling yourself is that YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY!

I vowed not to give two tears in a bucket about what people think of me, feel I should be doing or how I should be living. I have been practicing this vow for sometime now. The people who have had to deal with me either like me or they don't and the people who actually know me either love me or hate me. You wont find many people in either scenario that aren't on one side or the other and to be completely honest that is exactly how I like it, how more cut and dry can you get than that? So with that said I know my happiness depends solely on me and the people I decided to allow to enjoy it, share it and live it with me and no resolution can change that. Hopefully you all may see the same silver lining in the dark grey clouds as I have.

As always thank you for your eyes and ears.

The Other Person...

What would you do if you found out that your significant other had a completely different relationship for about half the time that you two were together? A couple nights ago I watched "The Other Man", jaw-dropping movie about a husband who suspects his wife of adultery, and goes out to find the man she had been with. Even though you may think you know how this story ends, trust me there are plenty of things said and done in the movie that I did not see coming. I truly believe most movies, especially dramas, comedies, science fictions and obviously documentaries are derived from actual events or based off real life/true stories. Which brings us to my topic for this weeks podcast: "Can You Love More Than One Person At A Time?"

Now before I watched this movie I did not think it was actually possible. Yeah, yeah, yeah I know I always talked about marrying more than one woman and how great it would be but I was just talking. I never thought it could really work until now. This movie has really answered many questions for me and has also confirmed for me what I have always thought about woman and their many ways of deception. Men may indeed cheat more but woman cheat and create other worlds and lives that they end up living in which causes much more damage in my personal opinion.

Click the link below as myself and Lizzy dive into what will end up being discussed for years to come by men and women. Also send any and all feed back to letsbehonestdho@gmail.com

As always we thank you for your eyes and ears!

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For All My Ladies...

Here on Lets Be Honest Dho not only do we provide entertainment, education and counsel we would also like to be a meeting place for our viewers and listeners. Its about to be a new decade and its getting harder and harder to find that "special" someone so with that in mind I figured that I would do my best to introduce our female fan base to the person of their dreams. I dont want to get you confused though ladies and gentlemen, this is NOT a dating service! We are just hoping that through your continued traffic to our site that you may one day find that "special" someone. So in doing that we will post either videos or pics up of people whom we feel someone in our audience may be attracted to or interested in. If you do find that you do see someone or something you like then you can simply make a comment or send us an email an email to lestbehonestdho@gmail.com Finding time to find someone these days is super hard and trying to find someone you even think is worthy of your time is even harder. I hope with our efforts we can do something to help you out in these trying times and bring love back into your life. Now if you happen not to find anyone quick dont worry. these things do take time and extreme patience is needed. Below you will find a link to a video and this is the first one so I hope everyone takes a look just to see how we plan on approaching saving our audience from anymore lonely nights.

And as always feel free to comment and or shoot us an email at letsbehonestdho@gmail.com

ENJOY!

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Who are you? Do YOU even know?

Greetings viewers, listeners, followers and fans. This is our first actual audio podcast for downloading or just for you to take a listen. The funny thing is that this blog came from the show I was doing online for awhile but I switched it up so I could be more consistent with content and interaction. So welcome and I hope you enjoy.

With that being said this podcast was mainly about "Being Who You Are". This subject came about from a disagreement me and mother had the other night on the phone. I am going through somethings as a man that I feel no one but God and myself can get me through and my mom was trying offer me some help but I was like "...nah i'm good...". Of course she didnt believe me and we went back and forth all the while Joe Scudda is sitting next to me probably like WTF did I just walk into (I was honestly laughing inside because I could see he was not comfortable AT ALL!!! LMAO), but she ended up being right about a few things that I didnt even think was true myself. Like many of you I have plenty of issues, the difference is I plan on using this forum as well as a few others to vent and use all of you as my "congregation". To some I may be "preaching" to the deacons but to others I may be the voice of reason they may have been looking for. So with further delay...the Lets Be Honest podcast with my co-host Lizzy. Check us out every Wed.

Thank You and Enjoy!

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Ultimate Lie of the Week!

Just when you thought it was safe! Fellas I beg you to do more than the standard "Adams Apple" check...these WooooMen AINT PLAYIN FAIR!!! Everyday I check out my "hood video" sites and see whats new and there is ALWAYS A DOOIZE or 2! You can thanks the good folks at WSHH for this video I am about to present to you. When I stumble upon "greatness" I feel it is my duty to share it with all of you. Now that I have this blog I can do that more frequently and also have some dialogue with about it. Wait until you watch this...some of you men who just started dating that special lady may want to ask for some pics...6months to about 10yrs old to confirm she is who she says she it...Homeboy in the clip did not do that!

What are you feelings about this?

Lets Be Honest...

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Really? Rap Style?

After reading the New York Times story on the fatal shooting of Raymond "Ready" Martinez I was floored. First and foremost I am not trying to dispute the facts of the event, but I want to address the poor tack the writers used in the portraying this man. The writers, Murray Weiss and Lukas I. Alpert, seem to super stereotypical and flat our racist in my personal opinion. I know the NY Times is known for their out of left field views but this is just straight up irresponsible! I dont know how they even get away with shit like this. I hope the family of the slain man can look past this piece that ran in the Times and just mourn the loss of their loved one.

I mean tell me what you think. Lets Be Honest...

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